In feng shui, the master or main bedroom is the most important bedroom of the entire house. Everything from the harmony of the house to the finances of the house can be influenced by the master bedroom.

There are four major factors you should consider about feng shui in the bedroom:

• The shape of the bedroom
• Location of the bed
• What area of the house your bedroom is located
• What is used for decoration

These all play a pivotal role in the flow of energy in the house.

The shape of the bedroom is very important in feng shui. A rectangular or square room is the best. If your bedroom is oddly shaped, you can use a room divider to help it maintain a more rectangular shape.

The bed shouldn’t face a door or any ‘protruding’ edges of any kind. These are both symbols of negative energy and can be impossible to correct without moving the bed.

You should also avoid having any overhead beams above the bed or windows behind the headboard. Mirrors facing the bed also negatively affect the Chi of the area.

The ideal location for the master bedroom is in the Northwest of the house. This might not always be possible, however the next best choice is the Southwest. These two areas represent the Patriarch and Matriarch respectably.

Decorations are important but you don’t want to over do it. Depending on what your goals are, you can configure and energize the bedroom for romance, marriage, or relationships. You should avoid energizing the bedroom for luck in wealth.

If I had a dollar for every time a man asked me, “What do women really want from men?” I would be a rich woman. Each time, my response has remained the same. No matter the century, most women simply want to feel they are special in the eyes of their man, thus loved.

Where the issue can get a bit cloudy is what makes a woman ‘feel’ they are special [loved and appreciated] in the eyes of their man? While it is the same basic concept, the gestures expected will change as the relationship changes. It’s like any other area of life - there’s an appropriate timing of gestures and/or gifts. Gifts don’t necessarily mean tangible items either.

The greatest gift a man can give to a woman is something of himself. Whether that is the gift of listening, understanding, compassion, respect, or simply talking about the events of his day. All these actions show value, in the eyes of most women.

Not to say the physical gifts don’t matter, because you can bet your bottom dollar - not giving physical gifts will land you in the dog house, especially on those special dates. Dates are important to women - first date, first kiss, first song, birthday, first … well, you know what I mean; the first year anniversary of all these events, engagement date, wedding date, and the list can be quite long for some women.

So, what is a man to do? Many men might think these things are silly or pointless, or maybe even a waste of time to try to remember. And, men - you might have a point - but that’s not the issue at hand. With that said, here are some ways to keep your woman ‘feeling’ special and happy. Because let’s face it, if the woman in your life is happy and content, chances are your life will be a whole lot happier too!

Men, if you really want to know what women want from men, try a few of the following suggestions - it doesn’t hurt to listen [not just hear] when we try to tell you what we want.

Here are some very basic dynamics about women that men should remember:

• Women (generally speaking) are the softer side of the human race. We have softer bodies, soft demeanor (usually) and instinctively want to nurture and care for our fellow man.
• WOMEN SEE EVERYTHING!!! Never underestimate a woman’s instinct.

Women are [generally] more  intuitive than men. Simply, because we’ve been trained over thousands of years to have that watch-full eye over our children and loved ones. We must see what the children are doing and evaluate the potentials for hidden dangers constantly!

Why do you think moms always know when the hand is in the cookie jar, even when she’s not looking directly at you? Have you ever felt like a woman was looking at you and reading your very thoughts? Well essentially she is. She knows what that twitch of the eyebrows means, or the way you rub your thumb against your forefinger when you’re not being completely honest - your eyes tell the whole story.

• Women are attracted to the pretty - things like shiny [gemstone, diamond] jewelry - and anything that smells good.

But, here’s a tip for you men: Don’t wait until you are in trouble to do something nice for a woman. Believe me, it goes so much farther when you buy her flowers for no reason.  You can hardly go wrong with these gifts. This is especially true for a long-term relationship, because this tells her you are still creating something wonderful and appreciate her.

Here is something you may not have thought about when buying a woman flowers - send them to her place of business! The number of times I have heard other women oooh and ahhh over someone getting flowers at work and say: “You’re so lucky to have to have a wonderful husband/boyfriend who will send you flowers! I wish my husband/boyfriend was that romantic!”

When you make this a habit, it becomes a magical event. Not to mention, your status among the other women has just soared and you are viewed as a rare breed of men. Heavy sigh! (More sappiness)

Most women just plain and simply want to feel special. We go out of our way to do those unnoticed things most men take for granted. Flowers will never go out of style. This is a long-standing tried and true formula that still works and I think will continue to work long into the future.

• Women appreciate ‘not having to ask for’ your help - you see the dirty clothes laying on the floor, the garbage piled over the top of the trash can, the children struggling with homework. Instead of deferring, step up and get it done. You will be amazed at the positive effect this has on your sex life too.
• Sometimes it’s not what you say, but rather how you say it - “Honey, you look TIRED, let me do that for you” or “You look like you had a rough day” sounds much better when phrased in the following manner: “Honey, you have been working way too hard, let me help with that” or “Even though you still look beautiful, I know how hard your day was, sit down and let me take care of that.

NEVER SAY: I’ll do that for you, etc. This will have a negative effect, especially if she has had a particularly challenging day. It infers the job or task as being ‘hers’ rather than one that is shared.

And when you think you are at a loss when trying to figure out what the woman in your life wants, just ask yourself - What did SHE tell me she wants? Then take a look at your surroundings, notice the carefully arranged photographs, or the aroma in the air and all those other little things women do to make their men feel special and loved.

Then go do something special for her - for no good reason other than showing her how special she is! You might be surprised how good it makes YOU feel.

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